Curvy Adele caused whispers in back rooms about her weight and ‘pretty face’ in Shallowood, and I can relate. …but I wonder if anyone ever had the audacity to call her the ‘fat girl’ to her face or tell her, ‘ you need to lose weight’ or glared at her when she was eating just to see if her plate was covered in pizza, or donuts so they could secretly gossip about her flaws to avoid talking about their own. My mom is petite but her husband’s were giants and my sister and I are both taller than her and big boned girls. People have made shady underhanded comments about our weight since middle school. None of which stopped grown men a.k.a. pedophiles from raping us as children. Weight also serves via the therapists explanation as self protection as a deterrent to keep shallow or superficial people from using us just for sex. Which actually works quiet to our advantage. Genetically white men and rich people prefer the skinny bitches who look like they were freshly released from the Holocaust starvation camp. They always have some weird as food disorder; afraid the one shrunken spinach leaf is going to add five pounds and “make their butt look bigger.” As if, some starving child in Ethiopia would not be grateful to eat the harvest of nutrition you throw up in the toilet after every meal. I thank God my mother raised us with a healthy relationship to food and enjoyment of it without guilt. We both work out 4 days a week, and are healthy with low cholesterol. People says things like, ‘it’s your diet,’ what they really mean is our lack of desire to starve ourselves to look like ‘Skinny Adele,’ now. In reality, I am on a gluten and dairy free diet in spite of ass-umptions. However, if I had Adele’s money I would buy my mom a new house, car and pay off the biz loan she had to get from the Govt, get my sis a new car, send my nephew to private school and the Olympic training camp cause he is a gifted athlete in need of a mentor, pay off my student loan & medical work, open a gallery, buy a house on the beach in Florida, and as I grill fresh salmon & shrimp with yellow squash with sliced red pepper dinner for friends on my new patio deck, discreetly heal from my laser work and a tummy tuck due to the weight I already lost from swimming 34 laps in the pool every other day. One mile in the water is equivalent to 4 miles of running. So next time you have underhanded gossipy side commentary about this ‘big girls weight’ know that it is actually not food or exercise that is the problem but my hormones. Again, if I had rich white girl money I would go see a specialist. However I am not, so I work with the pretty face and cute sense of style God gave me that I am grateful for. I don’t have any problem attracting potential suitors because being a plus size woman does not let you rely on your pretty or skinny looks to use beauty in an ugly way by treating people like shit so you can climb the career or ladder of fame. We have to work to develop our personality and become quiet charming in time because kindness catches more bees with honey. Making friends, getting hit on, not a problem. Black and Latino men love curvy girls and worship at the big girl alter which helps boost our self esteem and heal our hearts from any past wounds surrounding abuse or self doubt. I don’t worry about who can accept my ‘size’ or if your standard of European beauty fits the beauty I see within myself. If you love me, great. If I’m not your cup of tea, we go on our merry way. No harm, no fowl. Attracting new suitors again, never an issue. It is more an issue of stamina because I am confident in my skills as a true friend and lover once I have the right fit for my puzzle piece. It then becomes an issue of whether you can keep up with this swimmer who may want to dip in you ocean of love. If we can grow together wonderful, if not there is always more fish in the sea. I’m very laid back, calm, at peace about my lot in life because although I may not be wealthy per SE by the world’s standards or yours per se, I’ve got that billion dollar soul. Whether you value me or not has nothing to do with me, because I am merely a reflection of how well you love yourself darling. I don’t do drama, a negative mindset (without good reason) or waste time around people who complain 24/7, because complaining is a spiritual sin and is basically to curse your own life. It’s why God punished the Jews and let them wander in the desert for 40 years. Always be Grateful lest God put you and all areas of your life in a desert. So you see, I think Adele looks healthy, kudos to her for kicking the haters to the curb and focusing on her self love. Opinions are like assholes, if their not paying your bills who gives a damn. No matter if our curvy girl meeting is for a fleeting moment or a lifetime, I wish you well, and I wish you unconditional love beautiful…Namaste 🦋 Angel Tunes: Enchanted by Taylor Swift
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