I have no plans at all to come out to my family, and a good chunk of other people. And for the first time in my life, I am okay with it. I don’t resent or hate my family for being homophobic, if anything, it just makes me feel sad that things are this way when they don’t have to be. But it is what it is. The only true roadblocks I’m going to face is ensuring that I stay closeted to them. I’ll probably enter a lavender marriage, and delay my transition until later, or take it super slow.
My family are all very kind, earnest, hardworking and loving people, truly. I don’t think I would want any other family but them, and I can understand why they think the way they do. But I refuse to bring unneeded pain into my life by coming out and into theirs by shaming them for having a queer kid in the house. It’ll reflect really bad on them tbh, and I don’t want that for them.
I’ll keep my family life and my queer life separate. Anyone who doesn’t understand that for me, just won’t be allowed in on my life. That’s all.
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