Married woman who loves her husband, but our sex life is basically non-existent. Like honestly, if he told me he was Ace, I’d believe him.
I just want to be fucked… I want kinky, scream inducing, make the neighbors complain sex! I want to feel mastered and used, but not abused.
I don’t have anyone in mind to cheat with and I don’t really want to cheat. The man is capable of giving me sex that’s so good I feel like I’m dying up until the point I explode because I just can’t contain the pleasure any more. I want that sex, and more than anything I want it from him, but I also know that’s never going to happen again.
So I’m at a loss, I want sex so much it physically hurts, I love my husband and don’t want anyone else, but not sure how to live with a man who has lost all interest in sex.
I feel your pain… and I’m sorry. My husband won’t touch me, either. I’ve tried to explain the damage it’s done and continues to do, and it doesn’t matter. God, I miss the days when he couldn’t keep his hands off of me. I’m thin. He’s capable of what I want, other than occasional intercourse, of simply kissing, hugging and hand holding. He has deemed me as unworthy and it hurts, it hurts worse than any pain I’ve ever had. I may wither away and die
What about it you brought in a 3rd person to “coach him” so to speak?
I would be happy to observe and give my input. Maybe he needs to see you get some attention.
It hurts me to read your message because my wife gave up sex at around age 40. The pain of her rejection caused actual heartache to the point where I had actual aches in my chest. I didn’t leave her because we had had two daughters who needed to be raised. I passed by many opportunities to have sex with other women because I wanted to honor my marriage. After about 10 years without any physical contact, I had an affair with a woman at my office. It lasted about 4 years and I think it saved us from a divorce. After gaining a lover I didn’t need my wife for sex and I had to train myself to not want her. Not wanting your spouse for physical intimacy is a real relief when he or she has abandoned sexual activity. if you allow yourself to have a lover at least you will feel human again and experience joy. Before my affair I led a joyless life. At age 60 I had another affair which continues to this day. I have my wife as a room mate / friend / co-parent and I have my lover for intimacy love and wonderful sex. My lover is in a very similar situation so it works for both of us. If you are committed to staying with your husband I suggest that you take a lover. It would be better if he knew and consented to your side relationship. My wife would never consent to that so I just act discretely. She has no idea and she will never know a thing about my lover. I am a human with basic human needs. I will not let her rob me of living a more complete life and I hope that you can find a way to expand your life .
I know the feeling. My wif had a hysrectomy and for the next- years no sex. I finally had an affair and got sex a lot. I love fucking.