Wanting wife to explore

Linda and myself had been married for five years before I came up with the idea of her flirting with guys whenever she went out with friends. She would tease me that guys at work would flirt with her and invite her for drinks. When I met her she was actually seeing me and had a two fwb. I was just happy to be with her as she was sexy and fit. Unsure when she stopped but we married. I would ask her during sex if she missed those big ones. I knew deep down inside she did and we fucked every possible way. I started to convince her to go out and flirt and tell me how far she got . The two friends she has are also attractive . She would never really say anything and it didn’t matter if they were strangers i thought the better. It turns out she started having an affair with a coworker it took a while to figure it out. The sex came to a screeching halt. They would meet for coffee lunch take off days together. They would meet and have sex . He was married like myself. Someone anonymous would send me text to warn me . I couldn’t just go blaming her or accusing her. I pretty much almost lost her . She would barely speak to me and I had no idea how to discuss it with her . She eventually stopped only because I think his wife found out. They moved back to her moms town near Dallas. She has never been the same