I am gay, lesbian, 34 and live in a large metropolitan city. My job is in Human Services, and maybe because I am a lesbian who is uncomfortable with this lifestyle I end up counseling other young lesbians, and sometimes older lesbians, who feel as I do.
I HATE what has happened the last few years. NO, lesbians do not want to be OUT there. It is hard enough without being ‘identified’. In my experience, half of the lesbians I work with are married or have been married to men. Why? Because they want what all women want, a home, children, a nice life. Very hard to do when you are coupled as lesbians.
I myself walked down the isle, more precisely showed up at the court house, and married a man from my work. He offered me security, and a nice life, something as a social worker I can’t provide. In exchange I agreed to have children. It scared me, but it was so easy, and I love my children. I have a network of lesbians to work with, and I’m in demand for lesbians trying to make their life work. Once you get past the lust period, then what? My advise is always the same, accept that you are a lesbian, no different than being short or tall, be open to accepting a life married to a man, be totally receptive to being a mother, it is the miracle that makes you a woman. Don’t follow open, out, activist lesbians. If anyone has a problem, they do.
Maybe just maybe you really fall in love. Maybe. But for sure you can learn to love a husband. And let me tell you from experience, a man who loves you will be there for you. So the sex isn’t what you dream of, but the sex is fine, it is actually rewarding, there is something about being a woman to man. An orgasm from a man is quite different. Do I have a lady friend? Well yes, platonically speaking. Well we do share a kiss and a hug. I helped her find a husband.
that’s beautiful. i’m happy for you and your friends. that is how it should be
thank you for this. you are a true lesbian, and i respect you
Dude stop pretending to be a woman or a socialworker. You didn´t confess, you are trying to convert people.
“Very hard to do when you are coupled as lesbians.” Is it? Than stop making it hard for gay people. Stop it. If you are gay and don´t want to come out that´s ok and none of my business. Even share your worries about problems you might encounter as an openly homosexual human. But do not enforce your opinion on other people, especially if you are, as you say, a social worker, who would be supposed to serve the interest of their clients and not their own agenda. I think your story is fake and disruptive to society.
As a straight man I highly disagree with you, especially in forcing lesbians into heterosexual relations. I´d like my partners to love me for what I am. As a person, not as charade. That wouldn´t be healthy for no one. Think again, try Kants humanism..
my wife is a lesbian. she came out to me only. I respect that. I am still paying the bills. I don’t have any sexual relationship with anyone.
we stopped having sex for years but i still give her the privacy with another woman that she deserve.
few times a week, I wish I have sex. How to make my wishes true in my situation without hurting her?
good job
You’re really amazing and grounded. Thanks for sharing. PS I’m a man
It sounds like your bi
This sounds so fake.
This is kinda sad
I can appreciate your subtrafuse. It must be exhausting living two lives. But, wouldn’t this approach be considered gender fluid rather than lesbianism? Personally, back in my day, I lived as an opportunist. I would go into more detail, except the rules of this site prohibit explaining.